Marlene Kosar (nee Kitchen)
Christie’s Funeral Home & Crematorium is the oldest continuous business in Yorkton, but is also one of the most modern. It has continued to make investments in new and improved facilities in order to exceed customer expectations.
At our Christmas Service of Remembrance and Healing, we talked about how the Grinch who steals your Christmas Spirit can be your grief.
If you are struggling with your grief this year — over any kind of loss — here are some suggestions that may help you defeat that Grinch and get through the holidays:
- Modify your activities. Pick and choose your events and let people know early if you are going to change your usual plans.
- Plan some downtime. A short nap or a brief yoga stretch can do wonders.
- Let others pitch in and bring some dishes for dinner. Plan a dinner where everyone brings a special dish that reminds them of their loved one.
- Ask family members or friends to take your kids shopping or to see Santa.
- Buy a small gift, age appropriate for the family member who has died, and then wrap it beautifully and give it to someone in need.
- Create a memory table or a memory box where friends and family can put things that remind them of their loved one.
- Put a post on your Facebook page honoring your loved one. You can include a special picture. We are amazed by the many people who have logged into our Facebook page with supportive comments and special memories.
- Exercise. This can be as simple as going for a daily walk. Walking for 20 minutes a day can reduce your risk of having a stroke.
- Rent a funny movie. Laughter changes your brain chemistry.
- Express gratitude. Find one thing that you are grateful for. At first it might be as simple as being glad you can match your socks. Just eight minutes a day of expressing gratitude can make positive changes in brain chemistry.
How you can help others during the holidays:
- Be a Secret Santa – After Scott was killed a family left little gifts on our front porch each of the 12 days before Christmas.
- Help decorate the house or tree. That first year we decorated our own tree; the next year a friend volunteered to decorate it for us.
- Make some cookies and drop them off at the house, or invite the bereaved to a cookie making party.
- Offer to take their kids shopping and drop the gifts off wrapped and labelled.
- Invite bereaved friends over for Christmas Eve or Christmas Day.
- Shovel the walks or mow the lawn depending on the weather in your area.
- Be proactive and don’t wait for the bereaved to ask for your help.
- Just listen! Don’t try to be profound.
So, if The Grinch has stolen your Christmas and you don’t think you can make it through, hang in. You never know when Santa may surprise you.
Listen for those sleigh bells and a jolly Ho! Ho! Ho! Be patient, it takes time to find real joy again. And above all, remember that Christmas and other holidays are only one day and that the anticipation is often more stressful than the event.
All of us a Christie's Funeral Home wish you and your family all the blessings of Advent this Christmas Season - Joy, Hope, Love and Peace.